The adolescent is the first step towards adult relationships. Friends are our first bonds outside the family. As children turn teens they like to be with their friends rather than parents. They would like to spend more time with friends; going out, for a movie, do group studies. They get strongly influenced by their peers. This influence may be negative or positive; depending on their peers.

So in this scenario we as parents are always worried about our child’s influences and social circle. And we always want to know where our teens are going, and with whom. If parents question teens they get defensive and exhibit anger or denial. Instead of sharing teens may start to lie. They may not want to share all the things with you.

Rather than spying and being suspicious about your child’s friends, why don’t we try to create an environment of comfort for them?

Here are the tips for you to be in touch with your teen’s peers:

1. Create an opportunity to increase your contact with their friends. Remember don’t call them and inquire about your teen.

2. Do open your house to friends; like you can arrange a birthday party for your teen, arrange sleepover, etc.

3. You can give them a space to group study or related activities. Arrange snacks or lunch on a regular basis.

4. Respect your teen’s friends. You can even participate in their discussions. Like if they are planning for a trip you can give them the tips for that. You can see they also want a listening ear. If we talk to them with empathy they start to share their thoughts or even secrets.

These non-directive ways will help you stay informed about your teen’s friends and their daily routine. Thus, rather than quarrelling with your teens about their friends, you can have a healthy discussion about peer-related issues.

And, last but not the least, please be familiar with the other kids’ parents;, especially in emergency situations.